If you set happiness as your primary goal, you can end up feeling the opposite


, executive career transition coach & speaker

The Difference Between Meaning & Happiness research conducted by psychologist Roy Baumeister:

1- Getting what you want or needhappiness correlates with “having desires satisfied”… meaning does not

2- Time Frame happiness relates to “here-&-now”… meaning seems to come from “assembling past, present, and future into some kind of coherent story”

3- Social life“character of connections” affect the type of fulfillment they give… i.e. “helping others” leads to meaning; “others helping you” leads to happiness

4- Challenges “stress, strife & struggles” reduce happiness… but seem to contribute to a meaningful life

5- Personal Identity actions or activities that “express the self” are important to meaning… but are “mostly irrelevant” to happiness

bonus nuggetHow to Prioritize Meaning...

Keep a journal of activities

Align values & actions when choosing what to prioritize

Focus on relationships, not just deliverables

Share “best-self” narratives with teammates